|Via Black Chyna’s IG|
By Ta-ning Connai
Blac Chyna had a mini meltdown on Instagram last week and you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out why. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, we all know about the Kardashian catastrophe that was doomed right from the start. The relationship with Rob was a no-no. To put it on air was a no-no. But to then try and sue Kris Jenner and her entire K-Klan? Now that’s an absolute OH NO! And then when you think things can’t get worse…a scandalous sex tape AND the resurgence of the meme “you can’t turn a ho into a housewife,” which now has her face on it. And although she appears to be a victim of her own circumstance, it doesn’t mean she should be viewed as the least likely to change.
“You can’t turn a ho into a housewife,” was a commonly used lyric in Hip Hop, stretching back as far as the 1990’s. From T.I. to Tupac to Biggie to Lil Wayne…no matter how original these rappers strived to be, this is that one line they all have in common. Over the years, the phrase has taken on a life of its on. It’s been embraced by popular culture and it’s matter of fact message has been engraved into the minds of both males and females everywhere. It’s one of those statements that tend to have us thinking that, if we hear something enough, it certainly must be true. But is it?
It’s always been culturally acceptable to verbally taunt and ostracize women who fit a certain sexual prowess either by appearance or behavior. “Slut Shaming” is a modern day term, but it’s core premise goes as far back as the Bible days.
As I’ve read the story about the adulteress woman over and over again (John 8: 1-11), there’s one thing that always irked my nerves…Where the heck is the man she got caught sleeping with??? Last I heard, it took TWO to tango! So how the nosey neighbors gonna drag her out the house, throw her at the feet of Jesus and leave her trifling boyfriend behind? So there’s a law to stone adulterous women, but the men can go scott free??? Hmmm, I wonder who put that law into place?
There was some double standard bullcrap going on, and Jesus was ready to peep their game. In essence, He said that their sins were just as bad, and they walked away really pissed off. But check out what He said to the woman they left laying on the ground, “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more.” Wow! Caught in the act, with witnesses and all, and this is what He says! Now, if I could get into Jesus’ head to see what else He was thinking about this woman, I bet He was thinking this, “It’s not your fault.” And so it goes for the modern day females they disgracefully call THOT (That Ho Over There).
No woman could get to such a place all on her own. And there’s only two things that could push her there: #1Desperation for intimacy. #2 Retaliation for the lack thereof. Fathers were supposed to be the first to lovingly fulfill that role. But some left the home, while others never even walked through the doors. Some dads were there, but maybe never knew how to really care. So every male figure was to take their father’s place. Inflated self confidence covers up the psychological scars and shattered ideals. Promiscuity becomes the norm and the “somebody’s gonna pay” mentality often becomes a driving force.
But women who’ve become that way don’t have to stay that way. Can a women who has been tossed up and passed around (even with her permission) become a woman of virtue, of dignity, of respect? GOD CAN. Can her honor be restored, her purpose be fulfilled? GOD CAN. God can renew her mind to the fact that HE is her Father, and she doesn’t have to perform in order to get what she needs from Him. God can look past her past indiscretions and see her as beautiful and brand new as the day she was born.
Rahab was the neighborhood prostitute (Joshua 2). When the children of Israel came through to take over the land God promised them, she could’ve used her seductive ways to gain favor with the men for sure. The dollar bills from just one lap dance would’ve had her paid in full! But she perceived they were men of God. She accepted their God as her own, and offered to hide them in her house. They promised to spare her entire household because of what she’d done.
And so it was, the entire city got wiped out, except Rahab and her fam. But the story gets better than that. Not only did Rahab become a housewife, the Bible notes her as part of the genealogy of Jesus Christ! She’s one of only a handful of women who made The Who Begat Who List! God looked upon her as royalty, He made her name great, and now uses her to teach us this important lesson…There’s nothing God can’t do. God can change us, God can help us, God can use us, because He loves us! So don’t underestimate God’s willingness to eventually choose the least likely to be chosen. He can do ANYTHING and no one can stop Him (Job 42:2)
Do you believe God can restore anyone?
TA-NING is a former model and clothing designer who got the “call” to leave the fab world of fashion behind. While in Bible College, she discovered her knack for mixing her quirky style of writing with her gift to teach. TA-NING’S TELL IT TUESDAY is a weekly column (originally launched on Facebook) that uses doses of pop culture to present Christianity in a lively way. Ta-ning resides in Santa Monica (by way of Brooklyn), is obsessed with dogs, and is an old school Hip-Hop junkie!