In other words, take comfort in the fact that our country is not run by a lone individual, albeit one that is incredibly powerful.
“America, I consider the leading nation of the free world,” His Holiness said.
America will always keep an “emphasis on liberty, democracy, rule of law,” he said, and “the people elected now have the responsibility” to work together and will have to use “team work,” since “America is a democracy and the power is divided.”
If, however, someone’s confidence in the country’s checks and balances is still failing them, His Holiness has some additional advice to help you stay happy, no matter what happens in the world around you.
You do you
First step, work on compassion and start by developing it for yourself.
“Mainly,” he said, feeling happy is largely about “your own mental attitude.”
If you remain someone who is “honest, truthful,” about how you feel, you can find happiness “no matter what (the) surrounding situation.”
When you have compassion for someone, typically that means you are recognizing and validating someone’s pain.
Self-compassion, then, is when you are kind, rather than critical, toward yourself, even when you mess up or when you are in some form of emotional pain.
“Most people have much more compassion for others than themselves,” Neff said.
If you can develop a compassion toward yourself, it is easier to feel compassion toward others “and is much more sustainable,” Neff said.
And the Dalai Lama believes that with less self-criticism, your “health will be much better.” Many studies back that up.
Take time to think
It’s a lot easier to feel compassion if you take the time to reflect on what you’re experiencing. The Dalai Lama, for instance, gets up at 3am to meditate five hours a day.
Thinking more deeply, you start to realize, His Holiness said, that “nothing exists as (it) appears.”
Take the time to put your feelings in context, he said, “then the very basis of these negative emotions becomes thinner, thinner, thinner.”
Anger be gone
“Constant anger is very bad for our health,” His Holiness said. “I try to keep compassion” constantly in mind and then stay “surrounded by (other) compassionate people” that can reduce your anger. Do that and your health will be “much better.”
A lot of negative thought is rooted in perception, studies show, but that doesn’t have to mean you become a Pollyanna about negative experiences. “If a glass is half full, you can’t pretend it’s full,” Neff said. “If you can think about wrapping your suffering and anger in a kind of care and compassion and concern, it can activate the reward center of the brain.”
Working with Tibetan teachers over the years, she said, she has been impressed that despite their difficult circumstances of having to flee their country and live as refugees, as the Dalai Lama has since 1959, many people seem to be happy. “It is not like they deny their suffering, they are open to it, but they hold those feelings with love and compassion,” she said.
Another key to happiness, His Holiness suggests, is to “try to be of some service to others.” If you can help others, then “no matter what (the) surrounding situation, you can keep (up your) self-confidence and happiness.”
Service can come in the form of volunteering, like at a soup kitchen, or on a candidate’s campaign, but it can also be simpler, like being a good listener when people are upset.
Act like a kid
Finally, be playful and childlike. Children, the Dalai Lama said are “very honest” and often accept people without judgment.
“They don’t care what’s their religion, what’s their nationality, they don’t care what sort of family background” they have, he said. “Basic human nature is compassionate.”
While competition and materialism can encourage those feelings to go “dormant,” he said, playfulness can bring those feelings back.
His Holiness is constantly laughing and he’s playful even when he speaks about such serious subjects.
Considering this advice could make a real difference to how you experience the next few years.
“I will always feel there is real hope we can do something. So no matter (what the) difficult circumstances, it is really worthwhile,” the Dalai Lama said.
“Make (an) effort (and) once you committed effort, even small effort results will come,” the Dalai Lama said. “You get tremendous sort of satisfaction and then feel happy.”