“A retreat is a time to come home inside yourself, where the mind stops and silence of the heart begins.” – Ruth Davis
Daughter. Wife. Partner. Mommy. Sister. Friend. Student. Teacher. Employee. Bawse. You play many roles, and wear a variety of costumes over the course of a day… over the course of your life. But who is it that dons these masks? Behind the BB cream, underneath that gorgeous, hooded duster, balanced atop those nude red bottoms, beyond the concept you currently hold of yourself, there’s a stillness, a presence. Can you feel it?
Knowing the “love in the silence” is real Self-love, true Self-care– and you deserve nothing less! You owe it to yourself to remember and consciously connect with this deeper, and more essential YOU. And it can only be noticed right now, right where you are. If you’re already home, and you want to go home, what do you have to do? How do you get there? NOTHING. You just open your eyes and know the truth. This Presence is here, now. You just can’t feel it because your mind is covering it up. And that’s where a silent retreat may be useful– it’ll accent the outer silence to make the inner silence more apparent, which quiets the body, which quiets the mind, and when the mind is still, you can feel the inner beauty… the presence. And in that moment you realize you were always, already home, no matter where you are, or how far you wander.
A great teacher of our time, Dr. Bruce!
I had stumbled upon this effortless subtle-joy, back in 2015 just before my bestie, Grandma Maxine, transitioned. I was with her when she took her last breath, and was tremendously thankful that, as grief descended, there was also a palpable peaceful-joy present in the background. Without that sense of deep ‘okayness’ I would’ve been utterly broken. I knew I had found something precious, so over the next couple of years, I nurtured this inner peace with attention and love, and knew a retreat would be a great way to further stabilize in the awareness of IT. Ruth shared that this presence is like the ocean, or the sky, always there, you just have to remember to turn to IT, to feel IT. I want that for you. I want this peace for everyone. It’s why you are here. To remember. To Love. To Be.
Peep the view–
If I didn’t have 2 little humans to care for, I could’ve easily stayed a week!
I’ve been with this guy for nearly 2 decades and just discovered that he whispers HELLA loud!
found these gems in the forest… still don’t know who did it! You can’t tell but those pine cones were the biggest I’ve ever seen… them jokers were like the size of your head!
It was so quiet that wild turkey and deer would just roll up on you. I felt like Snow White lol. All the animals clearly felt very safe. The squirrels were fat and friendly, the birds would land close, and you could hear the deer ripping the grass from the ground as they ate… that’s the kinda of intense, LOUD silence I’m talking about!
Pics from their website (totally accurate and consistent with my experience, the hermitage was so clean you could eat off the floor!)–
Ruth told us to grab groceries from the market before we checked in. Once you’re in, it’s best to stay in for the duration of your trip, to keep the silence. I bought easy stuff cause I don’t do kitchens, and I wanted to be focused more on meditating and reading, not fighting with the stove and washing dishes. I also washed and styled my hair before we arrived so I didn’t have to spend anytime wrestling that situation either! I didn’t pack a single hair product! FREEDOM!
I spent 90% of my time in that chair on the left, reading, sipping tea and loving the silence.
I just used the microwave sometimes, lol!
In addition to our crew of 5, there were 3 other women that joined us on our stay. It felt so powerful being around them without the need to speak or learn about who they were or where they were from! In a way, there’s more love and intimacy in the silence, even with strangers. And then, they’re not so much strangers anymore. Lots of smiles and a few notes were shared with them.
Group meditations (at 9am and 7pm) were held here… the highlight of my retreat. I’m still (t)here.
I had never meditated with a group before. After the initial noise from the mind (mostly worries about my rude stomach grumbles breaking the silence– I have a very noisy digestive situation haha), I found it extremely powerful. I’ve been home for 2 days and continue to sit twice a day, with candles and incense! Me and hubby as well as Remonde (one of the winners) have vowed to hold each other accountable and to continue this practice no matter what!