|Goddess Abiola Abrams|
A lot of people talk-the-talk, but they don’t necessarily walk-the-walk. So when someone like Abiola Abrams comes along with a smile that could light up the darkest sky, you know that she’s the real deal. Find out how this transformational speaker, author, advice columnist, media personality and Spiritpreneur coach stays motivated, what products she uses on her gorgeous hair, and how her beautiful, afro-wearing Aunt from Guyana influenced her growing up!
What do you do and why do you love it?
Hi there, Curlies! I love Curly Nikki and I am so honored to be part of this column. I’m Abiola, founder of Womanifesting.com, born in NYC of Guyanese parents. I help spirit-led women leaders – coaches, healers, creative priestesses – to step greater into personal power, reach more people than ever before, and build lives of freedom and abundance. I do this through coaching, courses, award-winning books and affirmation cards, and events, like my 2018 Goddess Pray Love Feminine Power Retreat to Belize.
I say all the time that I have created the BEST job in the world. In the past 12 months, my kinky-curly-coily Afro and I have: led my Abundance Pray Love Retreat in Bali, spoken at the College of Psychic Studies in London, meditated at the Eiffel Tower in Paris, spoken in the Bahamas at the Creativepreneur Summit, and this year’s Goddess Pray Love Retreat to Belize will allow us to work with Garifuna and Mayan healers and bellydance, meditate and pray in the jungle. YES!!
What motivates you?
I think we have a sacred duty to have each other’s backs.
My work – holding space for us to evolve – really is my ministry. My YouTube channel houses my self-love sermons. Every Sunday morning on my Facebook page we have church in Goddess Temple Sunday. In my Facebook groups we pray, meditate and share inspiration in a safe container for creative women, coaches, and healers — to build their businesses and build their lives. I try to share more than just the fun and highlights on my Instagram (@abiolaTV) because we are all in this together.
My great-grandmother was a midwife and women’s fertility healer in Guyana, South America. I am the first person in my family born in the United States. She helped women to give birth to their babies and I help us to give birth to ourselves.
What’s been the best part of your natural hair journey?
I created the African Goddess Affirmation Cards because I couldn’t find any decks that looked like me. These cards feature goddesses from throughout the African diaspora. They also feature beautiful contemporary African goddess art, in all shades of US from cafe au lait to the deepest ebony, with all shades of our hair from tight luscious kinks to bountiful curls.
The fact that people contact me from around the world and say, your African Goddess Affirmation Cards make me feel beautiful inspires me!! This year, a matching journal and second edition is coming.
How did you discover your passion?
My passion has always been there. It just took different forms. I was just having this conversation with one of my coaching clients who expressed feeling overwhelmed at not having everything all figured out. Nobody has it all figured out! As an international retreat leader, Spiritpreneur coach, transformational speaker, media personality and author, it may sound like I do a lot of things, but I only do one thing. I help us to have a voice, to be seen and to be heard. I feel like I was doing the same thing when I was in a rap group when I was 16, when I was hosting TV shows when I was younger, when I was directing art films. It was all the same. My passion is being a “Goddess Spiritpreneur” — and as corny as that sounds, I am passionate about helping us as women to be who we were born to be.
How do you stay healthy?
As a spiritual teacher and student, what I eat is very much a part of my spiritual practice. I also have an unhealthy history with food, so I try to be intentional about what I eat but not excessive. I was a raw vegan for a while, but that wasn’t the best for my body so now I am a vegetarian. I grew up in a plant-based household so this comes very easy to me. My workout of choice is kettlebells. I can’t get enough. I have a personal goal of one day getting a yoga certification — but that hasn’t happened yet and I’m not even close!!
What do you do for fun?
A lot of my work is fun for me, so I don’t think I have what others would consider a healthy work-life balance at all. I do have beautiful work-life harmony. For fun, travel is HUGE to me. I have been to 47 of the 50 states and countries from Guyana to Germany. I love to dance, watch great movies, have meaningful conversations with beautiful people, hang out out with people I love, laugh, meditate, play with crystals, cook and eat soul-nourishing food. I am also a huge nerd so I love to write and read, am WAY into stationery and planner swag, and crafty fun like vision boarding.
How has having natural hair contributed to your life?
We were all taught, “your hair is your crown and glory.” Having eczema on my scalp as a teen made me feel ugly. But actually YOU are your own crown and glory. We are the crown and glory, bald, weave, long hair don’t care, kinky, curly, coily, bobbed straight and everything in between. My free self-love gift for Curly Nikki readers is my Chakras on Fleek Meditation Album:
What products do you use on your hair?
Here are some of the products that I recommend from my hair care regimen:
Pre-Pre-Poo Detangling: Pantene Gold Series Detangling Milk
Pre-Poo: Coconut Oil/Olive Oil
Shampoo: As I Am Coconut Cleansing Conditioner
Conditioner: SheaMoisture® Community Commerce Manuka Honey & Mafura Oil Intensive Hydration Hair Masque
Leave in: Carol’s Daughter Almond Milk Leave-in Conditioner
Daily Maintenance: Cantu Shea Butter Curling Creme
Jamaican Black Castor Oil
Styling: Camille Rose Naturals Style Maker
Dark and Lovely Au Naturale Curl Defining Crème Glaze
Carol’s Daughter® Black Vanilla Moisture and Shine Hair Smoothie
Natural Hair Clip-Ins: HerGiven Hair
Did you have any positive hair role models growing up?
My beautiful mom and my aunts had these glorious afros back in the day, but I only got to enjoy those in photos. By the 80s, all of the women in my family had jherri curls.
But I have a powerful memory of my Aunt Wendy coming to babysit me on breaks, when she came from Guyana to attend Tuskegee. I didn’t know at the time that she was bullied for her gorgeous ebony skin by the other students, just after the height of the Black Power movement. But when she came to take me out, I was allowed as a toddler to have my hair combed out into an afro like hers. And I got to wear a special sundress called “my Afro dress.” And my Aunt Silvy ALWAYS rocked a stunning, close cropped wash and go fro in colors from midnight to copper.
I look at photos of my mom and aunts in their 70s fros and feel beautiful and invincible. Just this morning, I was about to beat myself up for not having my next book out yet. Then I looked at these women with halo hair and said, “All is well!”
If you want to see Abiola answer our Naturally Glam questions live check out the video!